Our Differences

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

I was reading this awesome post from my friend Amanda about the differences they have discovered in their marriage. It made me think about just how different two people really can be but your marriage can still be one of the best things ever!

I grew up in a family where we figured things out as we go and we are pretty care free. 
Tim grew up in a family that was all about structure. Things are planned out way in advance and everyone is always in the loop about what is going on. 

I love to take my time waking up (if my schedule allows it) I love to wake up and spend a little while just laying in bed thinking. 

Tim wakes up and springs out of bed. His idea of laying in bed is laying there for a minute and then getting on with his day. 

Gift giving has never been a huge thing in my family. We would usually just get each other something small and fun for Christmas. 

Tim's family goes all out. (Well not compared to a lot of people but compared to my family) They have a whole rotating secret Santa schedule and get each other really great gifts. They also put things in everyone's stockings so the stockings are full of all sorts of fun little gifts. 
Most of those things I knew before we got married but the things we learned about each other after marriage are some of the funniest. 

Tim folds his socks neatly into pairs before he puts them in the laundry. This drove me nuts for the first few months because I would have to undo all of them. Once I finally asked him about it he said it was because he didn't want his socks to get lost or end up in different laundry loads. It actually makes a lot of sense. 

I learned men can eat a whole lot if it is in front of them. I swear it was different when I cooked when we were dating. I make a ton of food thinking that we will have it for leftovers tomorrow and somehow it miraculously all gets eaten. 

Tim learned I have some strange quirks. I always sit on the couch with my knees pulled up to my chest and my arms wrapped around my ankles. I also get super hungry as soon as I lay down to go to bed.

As corny as it sounds when you really care about someone their quirks turn out to be rather endearing. I've noticed that when I take care of the things in my life that tend to put me in a bad mood and focus on the good things in life, differences don't bother me. When you are stressed, tired, hungry, etc these little differences can end up driving you nuts. I really do think that there is so much benefit to embracing and loving the differences between you are your loved ones! 


  1. haha love this. i need to do a post of these, it's so funny the little differences you find when you're married! but the most important things are the same :) xo

  2. so cute. ha i love the socks one! My husband is one that actually folds different color socks together when the laundry is clean. ha I think yours might need to help mine out a little:) xo

  3. This is hilarious! I forgot the gift giving part. My family goes all out: spoiling each other & what not. Trev's family doesn't give gifts. Which is totally fine! IT's just so different. Also, I've probably already told you 1,000,000 times, but you were such a pretty bride. You were just glowing! Love ya!

  4. This is so cute, the little things you learn about each other!

    xx Kelly
    Sparkles and Shoes

  5. Beautifully written friend :)

  6. I love this post! it's so interesting to think about the differences we have from one another. it's crazy how it all works out!

  7. Such a cute post! Love your blog!

  8. This post made me smile so big! You two are so cute, and it's funny how the universe works sometimes, eh?

  9. Loooooove this idea from you and manda. Maybe I'll do it :)

  10. Kel, I love this! It's those differences that make y'all relationship so unique and so special. It's amazing what we come to know and love about our significant others/husbands. I loved this post.

  11. Yes, the quirks become so lovable--because you feel like a special, privileged person in their life since you know enough about them to know the little quirks that lots of people don't even know! My husband and I--it seems like we couldn't have come from more different families. We grew up in different countries speaking different native languages, and because of that have a lot of differences in family culture...but we're actually surprisingly alike!

  12. You're right, when you love someone their quirks totally become endearing. I know Iz and I both have our quirks but we love each other so we love the quirks too!

  13. Totally agree. There are many things my hubby and I have learned about each other after marriage. And so funny about the socks. Wish that was the issue in our home. I constantly throw away sucks because after doing laundry 3 weeks in a row I still can't find the matching sock. It drives me nuts!


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