As some of you may now I am a marriage & family major. It seems to me that the issue of getting along with in-laws is huge. It is brought up in almost every one of my textbooks and in many of the articles I read for class. I feel like I don't know too many people that really don't get along with their in-laws. Of course there are differences between your families and you have to get used to that and that can take some time.
In my own experience I actually really love these differences. I can learn different things from my parents and my in-laws. While many people suggest that it is best to live far away from parents and in-laws I have found it to be a blessing to live relatively close to my in-laws. It has given me a great chance to get to know them better. I love spending time with them and have really grown to love them as my own family. My favorite thing about my in-laws is that they raised my husband to be who he is today. I can never thank them enough for that. As dorky as it sounds I tear up just thinking about that. I am still blown away by the magnitude in which he cares and loves me. It is such an unconditional love and it blows me off my feet every day. If you are struggling with the relationship with your in-laws one thing that you need to remember is that they raised your spouse to be who they are today. For that you can always be eternally grateful. What an amazing gift!
One interesting thing I read in the article says that it can help you to create a closer bond with your in-laws if you call them mom and dad rather than their first name or Mr and Mrs. This is one thing I have always struggled with. I never know what to call people. It started when I was little and would play at a friends house I never knew how to address the parents. So my question for you is how do you address your in-laws? Did you ask what they wanted to be called? Did you just do what felt natural to you? I think it would be really interesting to know the many differences.